Internal, emotional conflict is created when you recall past actions that bring up a feeling of resistance to "what is" in your subconscious mind. Emotional conflict manifests as resentment. Resentment is a negatively energetic thought-wave that is projected out into the environment from your contracted Heart Chakra, Anahata. It creates an invisible barrier between you and other people. You manifest the feeling of resentment as a way to protect yourself; but in fact, it also creates a greater distance between you and the person you resent. It does not resolve the issue.
Resentment is felt without words being expressed. Because it is a negative energy pattern, it creates a repulsive force between people and stops cooperation: it halts any unifying resolution from occurring. Resentment maintains negativity and feelings of agitation in your Inner Space. It allows you to blame others for where you are in your life by turning the other person into your adversary. But, what you don't realize is that it also creates the opportunity you have to act as your own hero.
Resentment only diminishes by mentally releasing past hurts and allowing a feeling of acceptance of the past as the past and now as the present. When you do this, you can begin to act as your own hero by taking personal responsibility for where you find yourself. You can focus on making changes in your own life. When you quit being the victim, you notice your feelings of resentment diminish and the stagnant karmic bond begins to disappear. In the meantime, you are busy focusing on moving yourself forward along your own path. This practice of letting go is called forgiveness and is key to healthy living. It is positive because it changes your focus from being a victim of the past and others to putting you in the driver's seat as the active participant in the present moment in your life.
Living in a feeling of resentment is not a healthy space for your heart, your head or your body. If you cannot release attachment to resentment, see it as a sign that you need to initiate a major change in the dynamics of the relationship. It is better to release the relationship rather than harbor feelings of resentment. It is better to be honest with yourself and the other person since truth sets you free to create wellness - a balanced energy pattern that emerges when you love yourself enough to be honest. This also frees others to move on.
If you don't let go or move on, feelings of resentment will generate internal agitation that manifests as defensive actions and words. You will self-fulfill your own negativity by acting in a way that sustains the barrier between you and the other person. So, not only are you supporting the conflict, you are poisoning your own heart and mind by producing negativity.
Accepting the truth about yourself and a relationship can be hard, but it is also freeing. Accepting the truth and moving on is an important life skill.
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May you find new meaning and answers to life's challenges by being a generator of love for yourself and the people in your life.